Undo Years Of The Same Dating Patterns, One Easy To Follow Exercise At A Time.

Dating by Design gives accomplished singles a clear, step-by-step system of guided exercises to uncover where love keeps going wrong, break the cycle, and choose a partner with clarity and confidence.

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You’ve Built A Life That Works But Love Hasn’t Followed...

You’re successful. You lead, solve problems and make smart decisions every day. But in love, the story keeps repeating.

  • Different person. Different face. Different circumstances. Same emotional unavailability.
  • You keep investing months of your life, only to discover they were never right for you.
  • You lead with confidence in your career, but dating and relationships leave you second-guessing everything.
  • Deep down, you’ve started to wonder whether a healthy relationship is even meant for you.

And quietly, a question has crept in: “Is it me?”

We Are Willing To Bet You Aren't The Problem, Your Curriculum Is.

You got a degree for your career. You had mentors, certifications and performance reviews. Who trained you for love?

Nobody sat you down. You still learned, by watching the adults around you, by how you were treated and by what broke your heart. Those lessons became personal policies, and they’ve been making your choices ever since.

The strengths that built your career, like self-reliance, high standards and staying busy, can quietly work against you in love.

The good news: anything learned can be re-learned.

This Is For You If…

  • You keep meeting different people, but the relationship ends the same way every time
  • You’ve invested months, sometimes years, in people who were never right for you
  • You’re drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable, and the steady ones feel boring
  • You lead with confidence at work, but in love you second-guess everything
  • You’ve been told you’re too picky, too busy or too independent, and part of you believes it
  • Deep down, you’ve started to wonder whether a healthy relationship is even meant for you

This is not for you if…

  • You’re looking for tricks or lines to “get” someone
  • You want a quick fix without doing the inner work
  • You’re waiting for everyone else to change first
  • You’d rather blame the dating pool than look at your own patterns
  • You’re not ready to be honest with yourself about what keeps repeating

Meet Your Coach

I’m David Burrus, a relationship coach, speaker and the founder of The David Burrus Academy.

I am a husband of 23 years to my person, Tanisha, and the father to our two brilliant sons Zion and Micah. 

For more than 20 years, I’ve sat with singles who were successful in every area of life except love. They kept meeting new people, only to land in the same painful place. What I’ve learned is this: it’s rarely about who you meet. It’s about the patterns you bring with you.

My work helps men and women recognize those patterns, date with discernment and prepare for love that lasts. I’m direct and I’m practical. I blend biblical wisdom with real emotional growth, because lasting love takes both a grounded heart and a clear head.

My goal is simple: to help you make intentional choices about who you become, and who you choose.