School of Modern Man

You’re Tired of Being Misunderstood. She’s Tired of Feeling Disconnected. Let’s Change That.

You care deeply, but finding the words, handling conflict, and staying emotionally present can still be a struggle. School of Modern Man teaches you seven practical relationship skills to help you stop repeating painful patterns, communicate clearly, and build a connection you both can feel.

Helping Great Men Build Great Relationships.

I'M READY TO ELEVATE

You Care About Your Relationships. But Sometimes, the People You Love Still Can’t Feel It.

You work hard. You provide. You want to be a good partner. Yet you keep hearing, “You don’t listen.” “You never open up.” “I feel alone, even when you’re here.”

It’s frustrating to care deeply and still struggle to connect. To explain yourself and end up in another argument. To want closeness but shut down when the conversation gets uncomfortable.

If you and I are being honest, many of us were never taught the skills those moments require.

Many of our fathers weren’t taught them either. But the gaps in what we learned are now affecting the relationships we want to build. It’s our responsibility to learn.

Welcome to School of Modern Man.
Helping Great Men Build Great Relationships.

School of Modern Man is a relational education experience for men who are ready to address the patterns creating distance and practice the skills that build connection.

Through practical teaching, guided exercises, and live labs, you’ll learn how to:

Stop repeating the same relationship problems by recognizing your patterns and taking responsibility for your part.
Handle frustration without shutting down or lashing out by learning to regulate your emotions under pressure.
Find the words you’ve been struggling to say so your feelings and needs can be understood.
Reduce misunderstandings by listening with curiosity and checking assumptions before reacting.
Move through conflict and repair hurt so disagreements don’t keep becoming unresolved distance.
Stay present in difficult conversations so your partner doesn’t have to face uncomfortable moments alone.
Build trust through intentional action by taking initiative, keeping commitments, and following through.

Whether you’re single, dating, or married, you can learn to communicate without constant defensiveness, address conflict without losing connection, and help the person you love feel heard, understood, and valued.

You’ve learned how to succeed in other areas of your life. Now, learn how to build the relationships you want to come home to.

Catalyst: The 7 Competencies of the Emotionally Intelligent Man

You want stronger relationships, but wanting to connect doesn’t mean you know how. When you struggle to explain what you feel, understand your partner, or navigate a difficult conversation, good intentions can still leave you both frustrated and disconnected.

Catalyst is SOMM’s foundational training, designed to help you develop the emotional strength and relational skills those moments require.

Through an eight-week journey—an introduction followed by seven core competencies—you’ll learn to recognize your patterns, regulate your emotions, express yourself clearly, understand others, navigate conflict and repair hurt, remain emotionally present, and lead with intention.

You’ll put these skills into practice through guided exercises and live labs, working through the situations you face in your relationships.

Whether you’re single, dating, or married, the goal is to help you become a man who can handle difficult moments with greater clarity, communicate without creating unnecessary distance, and turn the care he feels into connection others can experience.

SOMM Is for You If You’re Winning at Work but Struggling to Connect at Home.

You know how to deliver results. But at home, you may struggle to express what you feel, understand what your partner needs, or resolve conflict without creating more distance. SOMM helps you build the emotional strength, communication skills, and presence to help the people you love feel as valued as the work you do.

SOMM Is for You If You’ve Had to Figure Out Relationships Through Trial and Error.

You’ve learned painful lessons through arguments, distance, and relationships you wanted to keep. But experience alone doesn’t teach you what to do differently. SOMM gives you guidance, practical tools, and a place to practice—so you can stop guessing and start building healthier connections.

SOMM Is For You If You Want To Stop Repeating The Same Relationship Patterns.

Whether you’re single, dating, or married, learn to recognize your blind spots, respond differently under pressure, and build the skills to create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Steve J.

“I was already in therapy, but I knew I needed more. I needed tools, strategy, and language to communicate and develop inwardly. After nearly two years, School of Modern Man (SOMM) is no longer a short-term fix for me, it’s a lifestyle.”

Kasan W.

“School of Modern Man (SOMM) has helped me grow. Listening to men speak honestly about their feelings and experiences helped me realize that I’m not alone. I’ve watched myself mature, and even my wife has told me, ‘I see you growing.’”

Vester R.

“School of Modern Man (SOMM) has a unique way of explaining things I may have heard a thousand times but never fully understood. The things I’ve learned here have been effective because this community gives men a platform to talk about what we normally avoid, our feelings.”

Meet Your Coach, David Burrus

You deserve a wise voice in your corner, someone who will challenge your thinking, help you recognize your blind spots, and equip you to build stronger relationships.

As your coach, mentor, and trusted advisor, I bring practical guidance grounded in 23 years of marriage to my college sweetheart, raising two incredible sons, and 51 years of lived experience, lessons, failures, and wisdom.

My own need for that guidance shaped how I serve men today.

Through SOMM, I’ll help you put language to what you feel, take responsibility for your impact, and practice new ways of connecting.

Whether you’re single, dating, or married, the goal is to help you become a man who communicates clearly, stays present, and follows through with the people who matter to him.

Is SOMM a standalone program?

When and where do we meet?

Are there contracts or hidden fees?

Are the live labs recorded?

Are there opportunities to connect in person?

Does my spouse or partner need a separate membership for the couples sessions?

Monthly

$97

SOMM Is Powered by The David Burrus Academy

One Community. Three Programs. Infinite Possibilities.

Your growth as a man impacts every relationship you build. That’s why School of Modern Man is part of The David Burrus Academy, a coaching community helping you develop the skills to connect with intention at every stage of your relational journey.

SOMM — School of Modern Man helps men build emotional strength, communicate clearly, navigate conflict, and become more present partners and leaders.

Lobby Singles helps singles recognize their blind spots, date with discernment, and prepare for healthy relationships.

Lobby Couples helps couples understand one another, repair disconnection, and strengthen their partnership.

With one membership, you can access the programs that fit your life, with practical teaching, guided labs, and a community committed to putting growth into practice.

Grow as a man. Get clearer as a single. Build stronger as a couple.